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Having is: " the honest and upright official decides household issue hard. " the cloud: " tear open 10 bridges rather, do not ruin one picket marriage. " even if marriage appeared the crisis, from of old people still mediates not to persuade to leave, after all the thing that husband and wife leaves other is not 2 people, influences crisis is whole and familial influence. Because this becomes us to face,be about to appear the fate brings lovers together of crack, we whether rescue? In this help sb to get over his worries, still must want part true wisdom!
Look in light of us below a few stories:
One day, expression of a middleaged lady walked into the friend's door cloudily, lian Yuelai, she sufferred mental torment, had been about to be not propped up. Her brain a blank, left two words only finally: Divorce.
She drinks the accost of goodwife enthusiasm tea, male host sits on sofa, the eye is very cool.
" my other friend all supports me, persuade me or left, do what by that blame? Did not carry, I was to be overcome really... " the lady has not sat firm, spat the bitter water of skinful.
Goodwife mood is good, of garrulous long-winded be favored with told one pile truth to her, persuade her to must not divorce, the expression that can be a lady or very indifferently. At that time, silent a long time male host said: " you are really foolish [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you should be become Party A, do not become Party B. "
A word says so that the lady's eye shines: How is this word told?
Male host says: " what influence does not have Party B, party A influence is how old. "
The lady says: " right, if I am active put forward to divorce, I did not become Party B [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], don't have what influence? I or when Party A, if he put forward to divorce to say again. " if the lady realized the ground to walk out of a door somewhat, footstep comparing is previous and much lighter.
Goodwife asks: " you how so urge a person? "
Male host says: " this you did not understand, she now so impatient enrages impetuous, where to listen to advance the general principle that you say? If you explain a drop with her fierce relation, long-term plan, she won't anxious put forward to divorce, this is not stalling tactics? "
Spent a few weeks again, the lady presses the friend's doorbell noisy again. Endured so long tolerance, her precipitant disposition and strong disposition, got many harden oneself [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], appear much calmer now, but her countenance is very distressed still:
" a knife, do this enrage me how can must pharynx go down? So old mutual affection, how can he treat me so! I had disdained to follow his shooting war, what this time we come is cold war... "
Bubble of ground of this male master leisurely one crock tea, let her first disappear disappear fire.
" is that much hold back bent? "
" I manage not to consider reason he. "
Male host says: " this is you is incorrect. "
Misgive of on lady face one face, in other friend home, everybody talks for her, though be good intention, but the result lets her more want to divorce. She is only in this friend home, she can hear different voice, this answers her also very want to know male host still has what your brilliant idea.
Male host says: " you are right your husband, it is good to have access, do not have property. "
The lady listens yell come out: " be, I always want to occupy him by force. "
" you always want to have property, always want to control him, have him, so you pass very painstakingly. Have access, was your heart put down? "
This word says so that lady heart opens meaning solution, buoyant ground went.
Goodwife has to word admiration of the husband add: " it is so good to want to be less than you to say. "
Male host says: " persuading them not to divorce can be a protracted battle, like her such person, return so that persuade slowly. "
A daughter is in after the setback that suffers marriage, heart special sadness [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], for a time very want to divorce. But her father always persuades her: " do not leave [link widoczny dla zalogowanych], divorce reputation is bad. Say you still have the child to want to bring up again. "
Father once comforted her with an adage: " celestial being feel uncertain sometimes wrong, who can have footstep misstep? "
Below father's advise and encourage, daughter endure humiliation in order to carry out an important task, assume the responsibility that had to make a mother.
Till a chapel that father dies, he still is saying a same word with the daughter every day: " should have taken care of your gentleman, had taken care of your child. " the daughter remembered deeply.
One day, the husband turned round eventually, his head into the door a word is: " celestial being feel uncertain sometimes wrong, who can have footstep misstep? " the madam is stupefied at a draught, is knowing this is providential still coincidence? What the husband and father say is same a word. She excused her gentleman, husband and wife restores good relations eventually, live very happy and happy life.
The daughter says, the happiness of her lifetime, father brings her.
Still have a daughter, quarrel with the husband every time, the person of her a married woman's parents' home all along not be partial to she. Be marital fault obviously even, the madam's mother always can say with her: " not too dispute, in the husband this ate to have a deficit, do not be be in an unfavorable situation. " this word, say in daughter heart at a draught at ease: Be, the husband and oneself are an organic whole, in him that ate a dot to have a deficit, why so haggle over every ounce? Then the estrangement between them and misunderstanding, dissolved in advise and encourage.
But the experience of another daughter is mixed however in front both is completely contrary. In her marriage shines a red light when, her father says: You come back, I lean to you, do not excuse so negative heart to lose justice person. Then daughter foot enrages a married woman's parents' home that held the ground high to return his high, face marital request, she from beginning to end the attitude is very tough, do not agree concede, also do not agree to excuse. Such manner, led to domestic tragedy eventually, the husband does not turn round from now on, established a family again afresh, the child also lost father's care.
So we do not look down upon our manner and verbal force, our word, may change the destiny of a lot of people. This utterance is be apt to it is evil, master in our hand.
These real stories, told us such truth: Any difficulty and setback, seek an account from his body only, ability solves a problem at all. To other outward condition seeks an account, cannot find the solution.
Psychologist Kathy of the United States once had said: " no matter what is our difficulty -- it is doleful, the child of the husband that or joins not to come, wisdom barrier, self-abased feeling, environment that suffers arrest to be restricted -- we must understand, change oneself only, ability surmounts place. The manner of ourselves must be changed, behavior must be changed. Manner cannot person of duty of captious, in stern words, retaliation, proud, chill, inactive. Behavior cannot selfish, not attend to other, dissocial. Explicit difficulty can be solved only with the goodness of immanent heart, exemplarying travel. "
On marital road, probably the twist that we take, but review, were we once paid for this hard truly the real situation, true justice? We once does with loving the other side greatly each other esteem give true love? Did we once give father love, mother love for our flesh and blood truly? When we think over once more, probably we can sleep lightly abruptly, the problem goes to go up in him body...
Marital happiness, dai Daicheng of ability of our domestic wind, family financial situation is passed, from old structure character, in case marriage is bright when having red light, we also ought to learn a kind detached the manner with take things philosophically, hopeful face reality, sober search an outlet, do not shut its to suffer from oneself blindly, be immersed in painful abyss.
We bring finally again the word of Kathy gentleman, encourage with everybody: " setback both neither should make us craven, also do not answer block up we, more cannot knockdown we. We can learn to dance inside anklet territory even, learn a song inside bagnio city wall even. "
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